This generation of dating has inserted a stage of the relationship that previously did not exist. This stage is often called the "talking/texting" stage. It involves exchanging phone numbers and getting to know someone through mindless, flirty text messages that are often filled with too many smiley faces and lol's. How well can you really get to know someone when you know each person is spending an ungodly amount of time composing the perfect message that will make them seem as witty and charming as possible. We have killed the tradition of dating and it is extremely disappointing. I'm getting off topic, I'll get back to business...
My issue with dating right now is the inability for my peers to tell someone that they are no longer interested in continuing whatever they have started. If you're not interested in someone, the mature thing to do [in my opinion] is to tell them. There is a polite way of doing this. An example would be...
Hey, I think you're really great. But I'm sorry, I'm just not interested.
You don't owe them any further explanation. And trying to be polite by responding to their texts or phone calls is simply leading them on. The polite thing to do is to tell them that you are not into it.
Point of my story: Don't lead people on and definitely don't avoid them. You will run into them at some point, and you don't want to spend your time dodging people that you've hurt. Don't be the jackass that led him/her on or the bitch that quit calling without notice. Be the classy guy/girl that had enough couth to tell the truth even if it stung a little.
What if you start liking one of their friends? They might put in a good word for you by saying, "oh they're a great person, I really liked them, but things didn't work out." That's much better than being the sketchball, trust me.
Let me know what you think...
I like this and endorse it 100%.
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