Saturday, January 30, 2010


What a girl wants...

We went to Mexico Joe's yesterday. Yes, seven of us piled into the car despite the strong warnings from the weathermen to stay at home. A little snowstorm can't stop my friends from indulging in Stillwater's finest white queso and homemade tortillas. I looked around the table and realized that all of my friends were in fact single. I'm not 100 percent positive, but I would make a very large wager that the Alpha Chi Omega will not see a candle light during this school year. I keep hearing about the countless engagements that are blossoming around campus, but there will be no such celebrations at the Alpha Chi.

However happy we are for all these "lucky" ladies who have found their "prince charming" "soul mate" or "other half," we cannot help but be skeptical of these so called "happy endings." Over the past year, we have witnessed these "prince charmings" acting not so charming. Cheating and infidelity seems to have become an epidemic across campus. The symptoms are highly contagious and include, but not are limited to:
1. inappropriate text messages late at night
2. inappropriate text messages during the day
3. drunk texts such as: "im hammered, come over"
4. sober texts such as: "I promise, we broke up." only to see them on a date later that day
5. whispered conversations in the corner of Murphy's, damn those palm trees
6. buying girls drinks who aren't their girlfriend
this list goes on...and on....and on....

These are just a few of the side effects of the disease. Some experience only one, while others have a more serious case and have been diagnosed as terminal and end up following through with their suggestive behavior.

So this makes me believe, that I actually may be the "lucky" lady after all. And that my friends are actually the smart ones who realize that boys our age aren't ready for marriage. They make great friends, and fun make-out buddies, but nothing more. I wish it wasn't true, but these boys have proven time and time again that they can't be trusted.

You can call me a cynic, but I don't believe in love at our age. Most relationships are driven by lust, convenience, or both. At this point in our lives, we need to figure out who we are, and adding another person to the mix will simply skew the conclusion.

My friends do sometimes stumble, and we do run back to our ex's occasionally. It's comfortable, easy, and convenient. But time and time again, we realize that even though the two puzzle pieces fit together nice and snug, the picture on them doesn't match. It takes a lot of maturity and gumption to avoid such relationships, but this is why I highly respect my friends decisions to be single.

Recently, my friend ended a very serious relationship that was making her left ring finger burn. She took a closer look at her puzzle of a relationship, and realized that the picture that had been created was vastly different from the puzzle of her dreams. I have gained an enormous amount of respect for this "lucky" lady. This is the type of gumption and maturity that I admire. Although she won't be hearing any wedding bells this year, she will someday find a puzzle piece that is a perfect fit and creates the beautiful picture that she deserves.